there’s nothing you can do about your period, love. i know it’s frustrating, but it’s not that big of a deal. you should just tell him now that you’ve gotten your period and decide what that means for this weekend. if you’re comfortable enough to have sex, go for it! if not, then you can pleasure each other in other ways. he might be disappointed, but he shouldn’t be super upset over it and please don’t allow it to ruin the sleepover you have planned. you’ll still be able to spend that time together before you leave, whether you want to have sex or not.
i think most women do still remove at least some of their hair and are expected to do so as well. but i agree, whatever someone wants to do is totally up to them!
thank you! i do for not anonymous people. i might put it back in the FAQ eventually, just not right now. you aren’t missing much don’t worry lol.
i don’t think it really matters. the only reason why you might want to tell him is because it may put you more at ease so that you know he’ll go slowly if needed. but you could play it by ear, communicate with him if you’re uncomfortable, and try to have lubricant on hand just in case. the decision to tell him is completely up to you.
i can understand why you’d feel bitter, especially if you’re feeling surrounded by people in happy relationships. but a relationship and an active sex life doesn’t determine your worth and the lack of those things doesn’t take away from your achievements in life. feel proud of your education, career, charity work, traveling, devotion to family/friends. try putting yourself out there - volunteer, join a gym, take a class, get involved in your community, scope out clubs/bars if that’s your scene, or even give online dating a try. you might not meet someone right away and that’s okay. it hasn’t happened for you yet, but try not to take it as meaning that there’s something wrong with you. that’s just the way it is. you’ll get there when the time and person is right, whether it’s the relationship that lasts for the rest of your life or not.
thank you for sharing! you’ve been through a hell of a lot and you deserve to feel great about the way you look. i’m so happy for you!!
just tell him what you told me and try to get you to that point together. it’ll still be fun to experiment with what works/doesn’t work for you. it might hurt his pride a little knowing that they weren’t real, but i’m sure he’ll understand and will want to make sure that you get there as often as possible. orgasm doesn’t even necessarily have to be the end of sex - as long as both partners are satisfied, that’s what matters.
body hair is fine and completely normal - whatever you choose to do with it (if anything), is all up to you. i do think that girls are still expected to be completely hairless aside from what’s on their head. but that doesn’t mean that that’s the way you have to be or even should be. hair is natural! whoever gives you a problem about it can kick rocks and they’re not even worthy of seeing your body in all its glory at all.