thank you! i’m so sorry that you had to go through that <3.
no, you should go at a pace that feels comfortable, and this pace is good for you. there’s no specific time you have to wait before you have sex, it’s really when you feel ready. you’re not as inexperienced as you were with your first boyfriend (not a bad thing!), so because you know what to expect with sex, it’s more comfortable for you. that’s okay, go with what feels right.