you shouldn’t have to fight for his attention, love. but i do think you’re acting rationally in that if he’s acting less interested, you may have to let him go. maybe give him one more week, ask him what’s going on, and then if the behavior continues, you’ll know that’s your cue to move on.
yes, frequent masturbation can make it feel painful to touch, especially with something as strong as a vibrator. give it a rest for at least a few days and it should be back to normal.
you just spit it out into a napkin or whatever. i hate those posts that are like ~good girls swallow~. do whatever you’re comfortable with, but please keep in mind that oral sex is not necessarily safe sex so protection should be used if they’ve had previous partners.
some men’s foreskin retracts further back than others so it is normal. try using a little bit of lubricant and sort of easing it back slowly. you could try stretching it a bit in the shower as well and gradually, it should loosen a little. if it doesn’t interfere with sex or masturbation, you’re probably okay. but you should talk to your doctor about it because they may suggest other stretching exercises or steroid cream that you can use.
you should probably see a doctor at this point. spotting is normal, but when it goes on for awhile, it’s best to get checked out. sorry i can’t be of more help!
i don’t personally think it matters because you still haven’t had sex and what you use to masturbate is your choice. it’s honestly a little weird to me that it’s so important that you haven’t had sex yet and that you’ve stopped using your toy because of it. i get it in terms of wanting to have that first experience at the same time, but i don’t know, it’s a weird vibe i’m getting. anyway, all women have differently shaped vaginas. even if you hadn’t used a toy, sex may have felt comfortable for you the first time. i wouldn’t worry about it too much and if he makes a fuss about it, then that’s his problem, not yours. since you haven’t used the toy, your vagina probably has gone back to its original shape (it doesn’t get loose, though!). sex ideally shouldn’t be painful at all if you’re properly lubricated, aroused, and relaxed.
i do think you should tell him when you feel ready to so that he’s aware of it and you can feel more comfortable if you do get to the point where your pants are off. some people don’t understand why some people struggle with self harm so just be as open and honest as you’re comfortable with. you struggled with this for x amount of years, you’ve stopped, but you felt that he should know if this is going to continue. scars are nothing to be ashamed of - they are a sign that you’ve survived that pain. but it is a sensitive subject for you, so wait as long as you want and until you’ve established that trust and comfort.
nope, as long as she knows that that’s what you’re doing and you’re being safe.
no, love, you were a child and you weren’t aware that it was wrong. it isn’t and wasn’t your fault at all.
i don’t think he was using you. i don’t blame you for feeling that way because of the timing, though, and that is his fault. to me, he really opened up to you, but made it clear that he wasn’t ready for a relationship or anything more at all. i think it may be best to just be friends for now. talk to him, see what’s going on (he should apologize for his absence after sex), ask him what he needs, and be there for him as a friend. but beyond that, you’ll get hurt if you hope for more when he’s not able to give you that right now. if he continues to ignore you, you’ve done all you can and you have no other choice but to move on, love.
i think you should talk about it just to clear the air. please be careful with FWB if that’s what you decide, though! establish boundaries (if any), how this will affect your friendship, and that if either of you develop feelings, you tell the person immediately and go from there.
where you’re at in your menstrual cycle, exercising, masturbation/sex, diet, water, etc. can all affect how much discharge you have. different women will have different amounts. it probably is normal, but of course, if you’re concerned, talk to your doctor.
no, you need to use a condom for the next week after you’re back on track if you miss a pill. when you miss a pill, you’re supposed to take it as soon as you remember and the next one as scheduled. this may mean taking two pills at the same time. you can check with the packet that came with your BC for more information about missed pills. if you do this regularly, consider another form of BC that requires less maintenance.