Anonymous
Hi! I'm not sure if you can help but it's worth a shot. I'm uncircumcised. But the issue is I have phymosis. Which means I can't pull back the foreskin because it's too tight. I'm not sure what to do and I'm afraid girls will be turned off by it. Any help would be appreciated

try using a lubricant and slowly retracting it that way. alternatively, try to stretch it a bit in the shower - not enough so that it’s painful, but as far back as it possibly goes and it should gradually get more loose. but before you try these, you should talk to a doctor about what other options there are for you, such as tools or steroid creams. when you’re with someone and feel like you’ll have sex at some point in the future, just be honest about it. explain what it is, what that means for your sex life, and ask for reassurance that it’s okay, you’re normal, etc. sometimes it’s better to hear it from a partner because you already feel vulnerable enough being naked in front of them.

Anonymous
So I met this guy on Tinder and he seemed super flirty, wanted to get to know me, he made it seem like he wanted more than just sex. The following week we finally meet up, he takes me out on a date and we end up having sex. As the days pass his texts became less often, so I definitely got the hint that he didn't want anything else other than sex. A month later, I find out that he had a girlfriend at the time, and he's still with her. I feel like a piece of meat now...

please don’t see yourself that way, love. you had no way of knowing that he was taken and it’s not your fault that he played you that way. that’s on HIM - it has no reflection of who you are or your worth as a person or a girlfriend. unfortunately, people are cruel and play others to their advantage with no regard to that person’s feelings. thankfully, not everyone is like this. you’re worth more than your body and a guy will never take that away from you. 

Anonymous
Is it bad to still want to have sex with the asshole who took my virginity a month ago? We had sex two times and it seems he lost interest but used to text me all the time. Probably to get In my pants :/ but I'm okay with him using me and me using him. Maybe I'm attached?

you probably are attached, especially if you feel like sex is something special or meaningful. this doesn’t mean that you’ll always be hung up on him or that you should settle for less than you deserve. it’s not a mutually beneficial relationship - he’s using you, and you may be using him for the company or sex, but it’s affecting you more than it is him. sex is great, it’s not worth the feeling it gives you afterwards. it seems like you may have a low self-esteem and you don’t even realize that there are way better guys who you deserve and who can give you what you want. you’re much more than your ability to have sex, and if he doesn’t see that, please move on to someone that does.

Anonymous
Hi, i've been wanting to have sex for a while but i'm still a virgin and i dont know if i should wait for the right person do it with. I've been really horny lately and thanks to your blog i've found a couple of ways to pleasure myself but i've been craving sex for a while and i dont know what to do, What do you suggest?

your first time should be whatever you want it to be. whether you’re in a relationship with the person or not, what’s important is that you’re ready and you’re being safe. it should be someone that you’re comfortable with because sex can be awkward at times. there’s no rush at all, so i’d just recommend continuing to enjoy all the many ways you can masturbate and when the time or person is right, you’ll know.

Anonymous
Hey, I've never asked a question on this cite before but this has been praying on me for a while. I have been sleeping with my best friend for a while, and recently he told me that he tried to sleep with another girl. Tried being the operative word. But that means they definitely did things before that, though never sex. Since we technically aren't together, is it still cheating? It feels like it. I trusted him, and I feel like I'm not worth a relationship or respect.

in my opinion, unless you had discussed being only with each other, it’s fair game for him to sleep with other people. he should’ve run it by you beforehand, though. if you want a relationship from him, you honestly should move on because it doesn’t seem like he wants to make that commitment. it’s not that you’re unworthy of a relationship, it’s that he isn’t the one who will give that to you, or at least not right now.

Anonymous
So I think I know the answer to this but I just thought just for my girlfriends sake I would ask someone knowledgeable! The last couple times after sex(or during) my girlfriend has complained of a burning/itching sensation on her vagina. We stop when this happens and it goes away after a couple hours. We have only used latex condoms, so I was wondering if she may be allergic to latex although gloves,etc don't bother her hands? Thanks in advance!

it does sound like she may be allergic to the condom. but it could be a reaction to the lubricant in the condom or the spermicide if the type your using contains nonoxynol-9 so it may not be the latex. try a non-lubricated condom that doesn’t have spermicide and see if that makes a difference. if not, it probably is the latex so go for a non-latex condom like polyisoprene.

Anonymous
If a boy hits your cervix with A condom on r u more likely to get pregnant?

not necessarily, no. pregnancy is always a possibility when you have sex, but if the condom doesn’t break, it is pretty unlikely.

Anonymous
I'm 20 and haven't been to the gyno yet. I got my period at 16. My mom hasn't really brought it up and I'm too nervous to ask her to start going. And I'm sexually active. Not that she would get mad I just don't know what to say?

you can make the appointment herself, or just say that you’re at an age now where you feel like you should be seen by a gynecologist. you don’t have to be specific if you have any concerns unless you want to be.

Anonymous
So one time me and my boyfriend and I were having sex and he pulled out and came on my chest, soon after my nipples started getting red and irritated, is that normal?

yes, it was most likely an allergic reaction. if it’s severe, you should see a doctor.

Anonymous
Hey! Love your blog! But I have a question! When I'm on top of my bf it really hurts when he goes in deep. Why could this be?

he’s probably hitting your cervix - your vagina is only so deep. you may want to talk to your doctor to make sure it’s not something more serious, especially if you experience abdominal cramping because of it.

Anonymous
So if you're planning to have sex and you're performing oral should you stop before he cums so it'll be better for sex?

yes, if he’s a guy who can’t just continue afterwards. ask him to stop you before he gets too close because it can be hard to tell when your partner is getting there.

Anonymous
If a boy cums during oral sex can you still have sex right after that?

it depends on the guy. most guys go through a refractory period after ejaculation during which they’re unable to get or maintain an erection for some time. but others have no problem going again afterwards. 

Anonymous
Does cumming make the boy thirsty? Like waking up several times to drink water

yes, it can definitely make him feel dehydrated.

Anonymous
Im a girl what is the best foreplay I should do to my boyfriend before sex?

whatever you feel most comfortable with and what he prefers. i’d say that usually, people focus on oral as foreplay, but you can do whatever you want.

Anonymous
I used to like my boyfriend a lot, he's very nice and gentle. But sometimes I just don't want to kiss him or do another thing. We both are virgins and I'm thinking if have sex would make things better, but sometimes I just get the conclusion that I don't like him anymore. Should I broke up with him?

sex won’t fix your relationship, so only have it if you truly feel ready and that it’s the right time/person. it’s normal to have doubts sometimes in your relationship, but if you feel like you aren’t that into him anymore, it’s best to end it. give yourself a few weeks to think it through before you make your decision.